Day 7 *Mind Connection* #TeamYou!

Mind connection: When life is most difficult, speak power over yourself. Sometimes you have to cheer for yourself! Often people may not be around to encourage you. They may not even know the correct words, but you can always be the source of powerful thinking and speaking. 

I think more than any other topic I have ever written about; being kind to yourself is my most harped on subject. I really had to learn how to treat myself with kindness. With all the people that will come against me in the world, I just feel like I need to treat myself like the best person I’ve ever known. Studying Psychology has been a turning point in my life because it taught me different coping mechanism to assist with my human nature. Learning about God, changed my life. I learned my true identity. I became brave, and excited about the future. I had to learn how to treat myself with respect, dignity, and love. It started start by actually “speaking to myself” and affirming what I wanted in my life everyday. You can curse and bless your own future. 

Difficulties will come in life and feeling and speaking positive to yourself will be hard sometimes. This is especially difficult when we have made a very poor choice in life. We reap what we sow. I was always mad at myself because of what I either was doing or not doing. Not allowing myself to receive Gods mercy. Once I learned what mercy was through studying, I begin to accept it. I also became a much happier person. My relationships with people improved because I begin to be a much more positive, loving person. I no longer had to live in condemnation. People can feel the light you put off when it’s truly authentic.

Being a single mother was never the plan, and I found myself very recently having what I call a “Mommy melt-down” (That is when we lose it to tears and feel like we cannot go on, then we pick ourselves up and continue like it never happened. #MOMPOWER) I was upset about my children’s father. I told God “ Well this isn’t fair. I do understand it was my choice, why is it I have to suffer with this responsibility ALONE!” Should we not both be reaping what we BOTH sowed? Not fair. So it has been hard not to be down on myself, or say defeating words to myself when it comes to this subject. I feel like I not only failed myself but my children as well. It is going to be ok, but I still struggle, and that makes me “say” defeating words. Well, it is time to stop and look at the bigger picture. If we never separated, I believe I still would be that lost little girl. Even after that I put myself in a relationship that was extremely toxic. God saved me from that too. It is time to stop the cycle and be all God created me to be! That is why my 21 day writing journey, which I named Mind Connection is so important to me, and I wanted to share. God has given me a lot of wisdom with my experiences, however every single word I write is a lesson I work on myself. 

Speaking to myself—
I had to learn to speak power, instead of defeat. I constantly do. I use to become so discouraged when I would go through a trial and it seem no one was around to just say the right thing, or they would drive me crazy adding MORE negativity to the situation. My favorite one was telling how they would handle it! Now I realize some of those times I was looking towards another human to make me happy. As I wrote in the beginning of Mind Connection, that cannot happen. I would become angry about the situation too. I found early in my life I began to sink into a pit of resentment for everyone. God taught me that until I could have a good relationship with myself, there was no way I could have a positive relationship with anyone. It all started with how bad I spoke and thought about myself. Mind Connection, my thoughts about myself was connected to how I also treated others. 

Learning about how my thoughts and mind working together connecting all the areas of my life was so wonderful and it still amazes me. 

It is our creators desire for us to love ourselves, I did not know that. I cant even say that I ever gave it a real thought. He wants us to love ourselves in a healthy-balance way, not full of pride. I use to dislike and speak so harshly about myself, I was surrounded by negativity because of what I spoke and thought about. My thoughts and words had a negative outcome in my life entirely, especially my spiritual growth. We will have moments of weakness but never should hate ourselves and truthfully we have to learn to provide the very same mercy God shows us to other people. We need to fall in love with the person God created us to be, the person that he is molding us to be through him, by living on purpose for a purpose. 

Learning to believe and encourage myself took a lot of work, but it was worth it. People say others cannot change who they really are! Correct, I did not change who I really was. I found myself based on the salvation of Christ. I changed the enemies influence. I had to develop a belief for my life, and realized that God has created in me a purpose and he will finish! I have to take every burden to him. Once I truly learned how to do that, he put in place people that uplifted me. God also taught me that sometimes I have to do that for myself, even when it is the most difficult situations. The first thing you do when you yearn for encouragement and feel no on is in your corner is pray. Then you can sow encouragement to others! Just because you feel a lack of encouragement does not mean you still cannot be supportive, remember it all comes full circle. *Reaping what you sow*. 

Life may not treat everyone fair, but what I will testify to is how he is a God that brings justice. I am not just writing what I have heard before, I am speaking from true experience! He has taken over so many battles for me because I refused to deal with it. No one can handle it better. 

Do not focus on all of your faults, because God does not.There is more that is right with you than wrong! I never want to be the type of person that ignore my faults and refuse to take responsibility. However, I will make sure that I do not speak or think down on myself when I mess up. i will no longer be discouraged about myself. 

God loves you, he has proven us to be wonderful in his sight even when we flaw! He has filled our lives with so many possibilities!
Love & Light

V-

Day 6 Mind Connection

Mind Connection: Ponder… Would you be willing to make some changes in your approach to life and start new habits if it would activate joy, and peace? 

I remember reading a book by Joyce Meyers, one of the chapters I came across was “Anyone Can Be Happy”. I remember thinking just kind of scrolling pass it. Sure anyone can be happy, but how is that possible when tragedy hits you? There is such a huge amount of sadness in this world and everyday it seems to be something new. Our happiness is not measure by this world anyway. If we learn to think how God instruct us, we can actually live in a mindset to be happy through tough situations too. A wonderful quote to back up my statement is from Henri Nouwen, he says “Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day”. So you actually have to be determined that no matter what comes your way—JOY is the option. As I have written in a previous post; joy is not always walking around in delusion that everything is great all the time. Joy is simply decided that no matter what comes your way, you will choose to think and act positive. How about this: Even if you don’t handle circumstances correct all the time, you can still maintain a joyful attitude. God has forgiven and forgotten, when we ask for forgiveness. So keep going and do better next time! Keep your joy. 

I do not mean be unrealistic about life and facts are facts! However, you have to be grounded in some truth. I have learned the most about me by establishing the foundation of how God views me. We were created so he could love us! That right there is enough to begin building a foundation. Unlovable and unworthy as I felt for most of my life, God actually created me for his love. That is how the enemy gets us every time. The feeling of not being enough for people! Well excuse me if I sound harsh but who cares what any human feels about me!? I learned not to care for too long. I know firsthand how people can wound us. Get some truth in your life, and realize who you are in Jehovah. Period. So when the hurtful people come up against you, it will be easier to dismiss. It’s so much for you to do in this life. No person is your end. Good riddance! 

Back to Joy…I tend to slide off the subject when I feel so passionate about something. One way to begin a healing process is to ask yourself, am I looking to people and circumstances to find joy in my life? It is unfair to a person to give them the responsibility of making sure you have joy, and as human beings they are incapable. Well, I will be the first to raise my hand. I wanted to be accepted by anyone so much that I did not even know who I was. I molded myself to be whoever; I was with at the moment. I cannot tell you how free I feel from that. I cannot recall when it first began to happen, but I was such a people pleaser. It was such joy to finally be released from that bondage, no longer having to hide behind the real me. Now I have a slogan. “Love me or leave me alone, I am ok with either option” and it is not that I feel like people are disposable. My peace is priceless (Thanks, Erica for teaching me that), and I have so much to do to please God. As the old song says “This joy that I have, the world didn’t give it to me, and the world can’t take it away”. I am feeling that. This world tried to destroy me! As the world will attempt to destroy you if you are expecting joy and happiness to come from the world. It’s just not going to happen. Joy is a gift from God, and yes it can be blocked and hindered by life difficulties. However, you still choose what you decided to focus on, and I think we can all admit the more we think about a situation….it can get us steaming over and over again. I do it all the time before I even realize it. Hardships are never enjoyable, but the right thinking in the midst of it can cheer you up, and help you maintain your strength. How we approach life is so imperative, let’s simplify it. 

✓ If you are tired…rest!

✓ If your schedule is too busy….make some changes! (I constantly have to do this one.)

✓ Be YOU, unapologetically!! Do not compare yourself to others. Many people claim they have this capability. They do not. I see it all the time, because I WAS the great pretender! 

✓ No need to waste energy over things you can never change. Let go, Let God….tuff stuff. BUT not impossible.

✓ When your way does not work out, better trust that God is in control.

✓ Forgive. (whew! It really is for your peace and joy, even though many people do not see it that way).

✓ Do not be too quick to anger. It makes you look ugly anyway ☺ do not ever go to sleep angry.

✓ If a person does not like you that issue is with them. You cannot win everybody, and sometimes people just don’t like you. I am ok with that.

✓ Believe the best will work out in ANY situation.

✓ Do not get too angry at people, no expectations are supposed to be on humans anyway. Learn that God is the only source that will never let you down. The ONLY source! Better believe that!

✓ Accept your forgiveness when you repent, it’s over. Do better next time. UH…Grace and Mercy!! (Doesn’t give you a free pass to sin as you please however).

Sadly, I witness a lot of miserable people with not much joy. It is the line of work I do and some of the family or friendships I have. It is time to remember to pray often and ask our creator to show you what can be shifted to bring more joy in your life.

Pick one from the list and focus on tonight. 

FYI: God strength is all you need; you can feel weak as you journey through. There will be days like that. I constantly believe in what Paul says 2 Corinthians 12:9—Paul goes on to quote what Jesus said. “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness”.

So when I feel like my joy is depleting, I do not stay down for long. I have a source I can lean on anyway.

Be Well,

From my heart to yours, V-

Day 5 Mind connection

Mind Connection: I had to go to the Bible for this one.

“And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always]. Let the word [spoken by] Christ (the Messiah) have its home [in your hearts and minds] and dwell in you in [all its] richness, as you teach and admonish and train one another in all insight and intelligence and wisdom [in spiritual things, and as you sing] psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, making melody to God with [His] grace in your hearts. And whatever you do [no matter what it is] in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus and in [dependence upon] His Person, giving praise to God the Father through Him.”

Colossians 3:15-17 AMP

If someone knows about carrying around much attitude, that is me! I became known about the bad attitude that I had, and I was unbothered. Sadly, even proud of it, no one would mess with me! Or at least I pretended I was okay with my bad ass attitude. I am who I am. I still have somewhat of a very stern, no nonsense demeanor. I just believe that is how God made me to be for a specific purpose. However, it is never okay to be rude, nasty, unloving and harsh. Attitude determines what is truly on the inside of you, and while we may miss the mark, those of us who yearn for the best life will always be convicted when we are not walking in love. No one is perfect and we will not always walk around with this happy-go-lucky attitude because life hurts. We do have the choice to live with a good, godly, positive, loving attitude even when life does hurt so badly. It takes a whole lot of strength; commitment and courage to actively choose have a good attitude throughout life when circumstances get you down. One fact about a person with a good attitude is they have good thoughts. 

I know someone is giving me the side-eye and saying “How can you possibly be happy when trouble arises? All that sounds great Vita” It is all in your attitude. Fact: It is actually harder on you to have a bad attitude. Attitude is simply believing everything will be made right in the end. Having a hopeful attitude keeps you going when others are giving up in life. The best way to do this is to focus on God’s word and perspective. That is why it is so very important to keep a foundation built upon God and the living word. I cannot advise how to keep positive without him. You have to have a belief for your life (that is a quote I love from Oprah).  

I have to share a true story with you. Even now it still stirs my feelings when I think of it. 

A few years back I decided to finally get some professional help and go to counseling. I was in a state of despair; I did not know what else to do. I just knewI had to get better. My faith was there but it was at an all-time low. I sat down in her office and was really trying to figure out what to say (Counselors are so good at pulling everything out) after we started she made sure she told me that she really wanted to help me, and the reason why is because she could feel my energy before I technically stepped in her office. She said it was so heavy that it pierced her heart. She felt the need to get me back to healthy mentally state. I looked at her and said, “I do not ever think I have ever been at a healthy mind space. I would not even know where to begin.” Then she said it….. “I want you to write some goals for the future for yourself and some things you want to achieve” at that moment I lost it. My attitude was so defeated. I screamed “WHY DOES EVERYONE KEEP ASKING ME TO DO THAT? CAN’T YOU ALL SEE THAT I CANNOT FOCUS ON ANYTHING BUT WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE!!?” the past hurts so badly and it just keeps happening over and over again! Life is not fair to me, and honestly I do not want to live. I broke down, I was at my end. I had never admitted that out loud, but that moment was a turning point. She gave me some tools to help, and how to redirect my thought process. yes,! Bad things will always happen in this broken world but we have the power to choose our attitudes. We cannot pick our skin color, eye color, height ect. You do have the option choice to have an attitude that is hopeful. That was my first lesson. My counselor told me that she admired the faith that I did have, she told me it was easy to work with me because she carried such a strong faith as well. So we connected very well. 

My Counselor taught me about the attitudes that I should avoid, it was an entire list! She asked me to identify with all that applied to me—-well they all did. However, the attitude that was most prominent in me was self pity. I have said it before and I will say again. I mastered the victim mentality. It was so easy for me to blame everyone else for my bad condition. It was very true, that some horrible things had happened in my life growing up, and as a young adult I was hurt repeatedly. Nevertheless, being stuck in self pity and the victim mentality was a choice I made. Self pity is trap! It is also a really pitiful mindset to get stuck in, in some ways it is a form of idolatry—let me clarify. We spend most of our time thinking about how WE have been mistreated and all of the disadvantages that we have faced, if we focus on the darkness and selfishness then we really do miss out on the blessings that God has provided for us. I had to learn how to appreciate what I had, and truthfully there is someone that would be happy to have what I considered as “little”. You never have any peace with self pity. The way my counselor taught me was to fight against the things I could not change and not waste any energy on whooooooaaa is me! That decision is one that takes action, puts you in a peace of mind and contributes to a better way of thinking about our life. It may not be a perfect life, and people can just SUCK sometimes. No way around that.

Another attitude issue that I mastered was being impatient—this is sometimes still a struggle. I will not even pretend that I have mastered this. Impatience is a bad attitude, and it causes nothing but plenty of stress. Reality is we have to sometimes wait on the desires of our heart, and even then we may never get some things. So you might as well learn to conquer patience. The beauty is it’s a fruit of the spirit. That is not something you can force yourself to do, it is the Holy spirits work in you as you grow closer to God. I often have to have a conversation with myself to be patience when hard times arise, I had to learn to trust God more with the direction of my life and lean not on my understanding period. It takes a lot of self-control (another fruit he provides us with). So I have learned to live in the now and enjoy what is going on. Usually when I actively do that, it leads to more experience for what I am trying to achieve. For example, I have been working on this book, and all the favor and connections have been coming…well during the middle of the project my mind went void. It was unbelievably frustrating because I have people waiting for me. Certain thoughts of doubt and my mind tried to wonder if I should really be pursuing this. I captured those thoughts and began this writing journey for Mind Connection, and the feedback has been so blessed. So I am enjoying this project and when the time is right ( Gods time) the book will be blessed and finish and successful. The enemy tried to convince me that I could not do it, and I should not. If I truly believe it will never come to pass, then surely it will not. 

Final thoughts: Attitude goes a super long way and determines the direction our life is going in.

Have you had an attitude adjustment lately? Ask God to reveal the real you, so that you can know. FYI—It may be down right ugly, but the fact that you require better of yourself is such an amazing step into the right direction! 
Blessing and Love

Vita

Day 4 Mind Connection

Mind Connection: I am on the way to all my dreams, the right people and circumstances are being shifted for my favor. With every step I take, it is with purpose. This is just the beginning, so many wonderful days are still to come. All that God has created me for—I will become. All that God has for me shall never pass me by. I have been redeemed and healed!

SPEAK IT OUT LOUD

I think I have mentioned this every night I have posted. I must say I am truly amazed at how God is directing my life, writing, education and career. Just five years ago, I could not even look in the future. I did not think I was capable of anything great, take it back five more years and I do not even remember what I was doing. Just existing. That is why my faith is hard to shake. I am definitely still a work in progress, a BIG work. Thank God that I am not where I use to be! It is an old cliche but it is so applicable in my life today. I am feeling that.

A lot of what this blog is about is sort of what I wrote about yesterday, I just had to cut it short because no one would have read 2,000 words of anything in one setting. I wouldn’t have either, so I am not even mad. I just simply cut it in half.

Your words.

God knows words contain power of life or death so naturally he wants us to speak life into our situation! I began to do that about three years ago on a regular basis. One thing about God that I have noticed is he moves quick when our faith is lined up properly. While we are going through a trial it can seem like forever, but when we decided to speak and think properly he moves so fast!! I had to learn how to speak life and forget how my emotion were making me feel, this is not the life God created me for. A minor setback perhaps? A lesson to be learned? Whatever the case, my life has purpose and I trust God indefinitely..Literally I got a call the next day that shifted my life completely ( I will talk about that soon!).

As a reminder, use your words to express your faith and gratitude! Being thankful for all that you have instead of murmuring and complaining because nothing is going to change with complaining all the time. Frustration and pity is all that comes from complaining. Now there is a big difference between “venting” to your friend, verses being the Debbie downer who is always negative energy. One thing for certain is when I became more positive, I had such a zero tolerance for complaints. I actually had to pray to be more loving because not too long ago that was me! However, you still have to guard your mind. You have to guard your words. Now I will be the first to raise my hand when I say this mouth of mines is such a work in progress. More than I would ever like to reveal, but hey for the sake of transparency….Someone else may need to read this. Do not be discouraged! God has us.

Words are so important in our Mind connection process. If we use our words wrongly; confusion, hurt and misunderstand can arise. Ooooh and conviction! I never gave a second thought about how my words cut, especially if you started with me first. Well, those days are over. It is not that I do not still cut deep. I have learned that what comes out of my mouth is buried in my heart, so that made me reevaluate so much. I did not like what was revealed. So I work on it. One of my favorite books of the Bible is Isaiah because he spoke with such confidence and God revealed so much through him about the coming of Jesus. Isaiah was eager and volunteered to be the messenger! However, in my study I found out that when he had his first vision of the Lord, he quickly knew that he was a man that had a “unclean” mouth! No worries. If it is your desire he will fix you up! Make you conscious. Then there was Jeremiah, he was so defeated and doubtful of himself…just as scary as he wanted to be ( I have been there too)! Jeremiah went on to be a prophet of the nations! Lets watch what we speak into our lives. If Jeremiah had not shut up he would not have been all that God intended him to be. Every single one of us can be used everyday to speak to others in a way that brings blessings. I make it my priority to lift others up and show my gratitude of love, even when I do not feel my best. It truly begins to make me feel great! I have some awesome people in my life, and sometimes I think they need to hear it. Speak words of love, encouragement to others. Healing. Strength. Provision. Protection. Abundance. Confidence. Hope for the future. All that runs full circle, so do not just say it but really bless people with your mouth. 

God always looks for people who has a heart perfect towards him, not perfect in performance, or someone who seem to have perfect lives and actions. He can work with our authentic flaws, which in my case is my mouth. Some people pride themselves on being very cut with their words, shame for them. They do not get it yet. God knows I am a woman after his heart, because he is truly all I can count on. God also knows he can work with me to make the necessary changes on with my thoughts, words, or behavior. I am so convicted easily now. Grace and mercy is such a blessing! Whew!

Final thought:

What are you saying? Did you realize that what you are saying is a measure of what is inside you? I did not have a clue, and once God revealed it (not to be repetitive, but this is a game changer) it was not very good. Even with all my growing, it is still some ugliness in me, because my words are not always very loving towards myself, and to people I feel have hurt me. It is easy to love on the people who have your best interest, but the ones that have tried to destroy you?? I have not mastered them. However, I have comfort in knowing that this will pass. God is not done with us yet!

Love and Light to you all!
From my heart to yours!
Vita

*Mind Connection*

Day 3 Mind Connection

Mind Connection:
My precious God I have so many talents, abilities, and gift that you have given me. I am so thankful for all of it!! Please show me the path, as you see it before I do. I intend to use my gifts for your glory, not my will but yours. However, I we both know I have many weak areas, but I trust your word when you say that I can lean on you for the strength I need. Christ came here for the weak, and I need him. There is nothing I can do without him, but I can do all things through him!!

Mind connection has been going for three days, and I had this entire plan of how I was going to map this out. I was supposed to be following some key points that I outlined. I wanted to understand better for myself and share the journey. I also prayed that I would follow the direction of God because I know I need to learn a lot about how my thought process was having an impact in my life. What I did not expect was a lesson on obedience and some other harsh realities that has come to surface about myself! 

To God be all the glory because just like our human parents, He will correct us and lead us in the direction that is best for us, NOT the direction that we feel is best for us……Which leads me into my writing for day three.

I will try to cover all the key points, and I hope I do not lose you along the way. I write just like I talk and I tend to jump all over! It is all good. I always want to keep my own authentic voice in my blog.

Personally I struggle with “thinking” and “speaking” positive when I feel defeated, and lets faced it, we all have those moments in life where everything goes wrong. ALL hell seems to break loose. Who can really avoid the reality that life just hurts sometime? As humans we do not always react in a positive way. I am fully aware that this Mind connection journey is not easy or always possible. The goal is to make sure I am always conscious of where my mind goes so that I can have the best life for me and the best reaction possible, and I want to share that with everyone. I have been on the opposite end of positive thinking, and let me tell you it just did not feel good. I wondered why people kept their distance from me, and why even MORE issues would arise. It all led to making some of the most awful decisions of my life, but thank God for Romans 8:28!!! Evil is prevalent in our fallen world but God has the capability to turn every bad circumstance into long range good! (See the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis—one of my all time favorites.) 

Onward…

On day two I listed a few affirmations because I want us all to learn how to speak power words so that our atmosphere can shift. The first lesson I had to learn was the word of God, I needed to learn his truth about me. How to hear his voice and obey when I am led. How to learn what my purpose filled life was and how to use the gifts he gave me to minister and lead others to his love. Along with speaking and thinking better I had to learn humility, ( satan will give you a false sense of entitlement whew)! And realize just because I did not get my way doesn’t meant God is not working for the greater good. Our entire life is supposed to be focused on what his purpose is, and the closer we get to him we learn about the gifts he has blessed us with and how that aligns with his purpose. Proverbs 3:7 teaches us that we do not have the wisdom of correct choices until we learn to listen to the Lord. He knows what is best.

How I learned to think when life gets difficult:

Psalms 30:5

“Every word of God proves true. He is a shield to all who come to him for protection.”

I constantly remind myself that no matter how difficult life gets, God does love and value me very much. We can always be assured that he will get the victory. I know some days it seems like a never ending prayer to cast out bad thoughts, we all will experience days like this. Please do not give up on days like this. Learn to spend time with the God in prayer. Just view it as an attack and we can past the test! We already have the victory, satan knows his time is limited and he does not have the option of salvation like we do. So the little hater is going to hit you from every angle, and pull out the big guns! Remember that no weapons formed are going to prosper! When things do not work out God is teaching me that he has the perfect plan for my life. Some situations are just not the meant for our lives! Especially if we claim to allow God to be the lead. Circumstances will end and switch up before we are ready to let go. This actually happens often. Let us not be defeated when things do not go our way. We are equipped to endure, be patient, steadfast, long-suffering and joyful in those times that are difficult. 

Seems most of our turmoil is when things do not go “our” way. There goes that Satan giving us a false sense of entitlement again. Stop and consider that maybe you need to get out of your way and get into Gods will. I am just saying…Lesson I learned the hard way. Our expectation of what WE want is what disappoints us. God does want us to have a good life but there are occasions and circumstances when we must be patient about not getting our way. We have to learn to persevere anyhow. All of my disappointments and setbacks have taken me to another level (when I allowed God to take control).  
Gods living word says we inherit the promises through faith and patience. Can you continue to believe God even when life seems unfair, and you do not get your way? Can you still think positively and not believe every thought that crosses your mind? You can choose to accept life and everything that is included; make the best out of the situations that come OR just think bad, speak bad and remain defeated. The choice really belongs to us. There was a time I rather sit and feel sorry for myself ( I mastered the victim mentality!) I would listen to the whispers of the enemy and I missed out with God, and just trusting him with every situation. I took matters in my own unknowing hand, and screwed up bad! The blessing in it all is God rescued me. 

Mind Connection!
Good Sunday Evening!
From my heart to yours,
Vita💞

Day 2-Mind Connection

Day 2 I actually wanted to go in a different direction, WHICH I will still cover. I cannot ignore the lessons that are obvious along the way. This is MY 21-day journey so if it’s not applicable to your life, I totally understand. I still pray you receive a life changing word. So as I gathered my notes for today’s blog, a common theme kept popping up. To be honest, I ignored it. So I said, “Well, I will take a mental note but that is not the direction I am going in with this blog.” Funny.

How does one pray for Gods guidance and leadership, then decides to omit material that could save a life?

She does not. I stepped into formation real quick! ☺

Obedience- My greatest struggle. I will not tell a lie. I am so stubborn and for some reason; learning the hard way was the only route I chose. Currently, I like to learn the easiest way possible, and that calls for a great deal of humility. I grew tired of the same cycle. Moving forward—-

Rhetorical Question: Do you have problems in your life? Absolutely.

Howe think, feel, and speak also determines how big the problem grows. Then we react poorly. Then no one feels good about anything. Let us be delivered from that. A few weeks ago while studying, God dropped in my spirit to speak to the mountains (problems) in my life. Declare that they be handled appropriately in Jesus Name! Stop sitting around murmuring and complaining with others, then feeling useless and self-pity! There is a living power in my life to handle every issue and help me through it. This is where obedience becomes important. We cannot just speak it we have to strive to live a life of obedience. Disobedience made a wreck of my life. RIDICULOUS the vicious unnecessary cycle that repeated in my life. It also made me very fearful of so much. God is faithful and true to his word all the time, even when we are disobedience. Obedience opens the flow of blessing and power, and is for our benefit. We are always going to have mountains (problems) in our lives. The big issues are not so big to our even bigger God.

Speak, Think, Talk and live with a heart of obedience, forgiveness and patience with yourself.

Wrap up—–

Mind Connection is my personal journey and I can testify to the power of controlling and speaking your life into a better position. Get into a Bible you can understand and study. Remembering the scriptures helps you get through the difficult times. We can remember Philippians 4:13—Through Christ everything is possible! Scream that and stand in faith right now over a trial you are experiencing. I also believe in affirmations. When I first started writing down affirmations and saying them aloud, it felt silly. However, soon I could tell the difference in my life. I see things coming to pass, and my confidence level has risen so high. I was calling out what I desired—and I did so out loud and bold! You know we can do that right? God actually prefers us to be confident with prayer!

1 John 5:14-15

“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.”

The belief is that if you speak aloud, and affirm with faith your life will shift into a positive direction. 
Write these down and tape them somewhere you can see them everyday. Now I want you for six months, twice a day! Just watch life shift!
I am blessed. I am talented. I am successful.

I am victorious. I am talented. I am creative.

I am energetic. I am happy. I am positive.

I am passionate. I am strong. I am confident.

I am secure. I am beautiful. I am attractive. 

I am valuable. I am free. i am redeemed.

I am forgiven. i am anointed. I am accepted.

I am approved. I am prepared. I am qualified.

I am determined. I am patient. I am kind.

I am equipped. I am empowered. I and well able.

I AM a child of the most high GOD!!

Vita

Day 1—Mind Connection

I decided to begin this series of writing because I needed to refresh myself. I decided to share it because I personally feel like there is always someone that can relate or needs the extra encouragement. This journey started because for the past few months, I was feeling out of sorts. Some events happened and I begin to just feel bad. I found myself replaying events over and over in my head and I in return was making poor decisions. Even with all that was going on, I never stopped my communication with God. I asked him to please help me get through this. 

Answered Prayer: It is crazy because, I just knew the current trial I was having was a particular “thing” ,however God revealed to me that it was my thought process. Plenty of times I have advised others about the power of thinking but I apparently still have a lot to learn about that power myself. I was slightly discouraged but I knew to remain Gods best, I had to put in my work. Then it dropped in my spirit to share this journey. I am doing this share and post for 21 days, however this is a every single day refresher, for each one of us—-IF WE CHOOSE TO.

There is a few key points that I want to touch on with this blog, information that has made me really conscious about what I think, say, and feel.

Your thoughts affect your outlook on life.

The great thing about Gods word is it gives us several examples on how we can and should capture our thoughts. I honestly did not realized I had the power to do so. God makes it very clear in 2 Corinthians 10:5, that we have the power to capture our thoughts and make them submit to the power of Jesus Christ. (WOW!) As I share the knowledge knowledge during this ” Mind Connection” series; I shall never neglect to admit that I am flesh! This is difficult. This is not impossible either. We do serve a very gracious, loving and patient God. He is aware of the human nature and our struggle. It is imperative that we always remember that each of your thoughts will have some sort of effect on your life and occasionally ( more often than not) the people around you as well.

Enjoying life begins with the thoughts you choose to think.
Any day that we don’t give up puts us one day closer to success—I figure we are going to believe something anyway, why not make it good!
If you are willing to do what it takes, you can really have a great life, because every part of your life is connected to your mind.

Thoughts and Talk!

Proverbs 6:2 informs us that we are “snared” by the words of our mouth. Snared means to be trapped!! We will always have negative thoughts, but when we speak them——-> they become reality. Refuse to verbalized the negative. Pray instead and remember 2 Corinthians 10:5. 

STRONG REALITY— you are where you are today because of what you have been thinking, saying and believing about yourself. Your life will certainly move in the direction of your words.

GOD has given us power in words, so that means that we have to be accountable for each in everything that comes out of it, that is very scary! Some crazy stuff has flew out of my mouth during times of anger, frustration and when I would participate in useless gossip..he makes it very clear in Matthew 12:36

“And i tell you this, you must give an account on judgement day for every idle word you speak”

What comes out of your mouth is a clear indication of what is on the inside of you, allow the Holy spirit to cleanse you from the inside out! I am working on this and praying for you all. 

What God is teaching me is NOT to think negatively or speak negatively either. I have to remind myself of Gods truth according to Who I am, and meditate on that! We need to speak it and roll it over and over in our mind!! Just learning a little bit of this concept has change my responses to issues and how I deal with difficulties. 

Thank you for reading with me on day 1! Tomorrow I will be back with new material!
Vita

My 21- Day Journey! *Mind Connection* enjoy!

My thought process kept me defeated, and my words were a reflection, and my emotions ran out of control.

A few years back God really blessed my life when he taught about the patterns of my thoughts, emotions, and how I spoke about myself and others. It all was a reflection of the toxicity on the inside of me. Learning about this totally transformed my life in a way that it became my mission in life (one of many) to share all I had learned. I found out there are many, many people who like myself just never knew that the mind was satans biggest tool, and sadly the most successful. Mental illness is my personal tender spot because it tends to hold a dark stigma. It is not dark, weird, or wrong..it is a battle that people need to be educated on, and also understand it is not easy to live with. 

In order to reach out I had to step into an uncomfortable position, and learn how to be transparent. I am an extremely private person so sharing my past, present, and future is weird. I first had to block the naysayers, negative thoughts, and really walk out on faith. I had to believe in myself even if I sounded unrealistic to others. God is good. 

So I figured I had this “thought” process and the knowledge pretty much figured out! Life is getting better…I feel & look GREAT! Confidence and self worth is in a place where it never has been before. I have the blessings and favor of God all around and I am understanding how valuable He is in my life. Then it happened……several hurtful things—very recent. All that I learned seemed to not really work. What is happening? So I got very quiet. Very still, and began to pray more. The Holy Spirt made it very clear the mind connection process is an EVERYDAY PROCESS!!! It is not easy. It is not a “once I’ve made up my mind that is it!” situation. Everyday we have to exercise the mind connection process like when we go to the gym. 

I am always amazed how when I need to tune into the Holy Spirit he gives me exactly what I need, then I level up! I want to share! I need to share!

Check out my blog at http://www.msjevitamonique.wordpress.com for the next 21-days! It is my personal journey…I promise you will not be disappointed..Share freely!  

As always, LOVE & LIGHT!!
Vita💞